In an effort to give my wife some alone time, I woke up one Saturday morning and decided that Gia and I would attempt our first outing together. Alone. Without my wife!
While it sounded all peachy, I was quite nervous. All the ‘what if’s’ started jumping into my head.
"I fastened Gia into her car seat, cranked up the music and off we went. As long as I pay attention to Gia’s signs I will be ok! These are, but not limited to: I’m hungry, I pooped, I’m tired and I’m bored."
My wife is completely selfless and didn’t want us to go, but I insisted. I asked for a mini breakdown of everything I should know, and I got the ‘full’ breakdown. “Shouldn’t I write this down?” I asked. “You will be just fine my love” she replied.
I could tell Milly was anxious to see us go out alone. It’s completely understandable. She has been with Gia every single day since she was born. Milly packed the bag, we said goodbye and off we went.
I immediately realized that carrying a baby, phone, keys and a nappy bag while trying to open and load the car was not as easy as it sounds. Milly does this every day - along with her work bag, lunch bag and a few odd extras. (Speaking about packing a bag and loading the car. We recently went away for a weekend down the coast. Trust me, it is not just a simple task of packing bags & loading the boot…oh no! It's a strategic game of Tetris. If you were a fan of the tile-matching puzzle game in the 80s, you may have already acquired the skills needed for this.)
I fastened Gia into her car seat, cranked up the music and off we went. As long as I pay attention to Gia’s signs I will be ok! These are, but not limited to: I’m hungry, I pooped, I’m tired and I’m bored.
Heading out alone with baby switches your parenting instincts into over drive and almost everything around you looks like a potential threat. I guess stressing is a normal human trait - We all do it. Sometimes we just need to trust ourselves more than we doubt ourselves. I also believe that alone time, especially for a new mom can do her a world of good. She is the pillar of our family keeping everything together. In order for her to avoid stress overload and burnout, she needs a little time for herself… even if she insists that she doesn’t.
Our outing lasted just under 3 hours and everything went swimmingly. We arrived home to an overly excited wife standing at the door ready to welcome us back home, almost as if we have been gone for a week.
First baby outing with Dad = Mission accomplished!